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The only way to decide your words well?

The only way to decide your words well?

These 2 things that can be said about words with zero risk of being wrong are the following:

1: You suffer if you have an emotional response to everything that is said to you. Because if words control you means everyone else can control you.

2: If you don’t know words well, you don’t know how to decide words well. And if you don’t know how to decide words well, others will decide your words for you.

If you follow “1” or “2”, you lose because you can’t win with a losing hand.

But there is a 3rd way.

You can end the suffering and decide your words well.
For that, the first step consists of knowing what a word is.
How do you recognise a word when you see or hear one?
Aloud or in self-talk makes no difference.
That first step consists in fact of two, STEP A, followed by STEP B.

STEP A: DO NOT!
DO NOT, repeat DO NOT, believe what the preachers, teachers, schools/universities, internet, artificial intelligence, and smartphones tell you about words.

STEP B: DO!
DO, repeat DO, believe what you see here.

In the beginning is the word. https://go.schindlersword.com/7Prift
Everything that you have a word for is, in fact, a word.
The internet gobbles up, stores, and disseminates more words faster than anything invented for that purpose before. Schools and universities included.
The average 10-year-old has spent more time at their smartphone than at any school.
Whatever tries to make a difference between school and smartphone doesn’t know the first thing about either.
Words haven’t been around forever.
Words have rules.

If you haven’t decided between “STEP A: DO NOT!” and “STEP B: DO!” then you have already made a decision, haven’t you?
This is as simple as decide goes.

No other word or word-user can decide for you.

PS.
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Nothing’s impossible

By In You

1 (one) SMALL thing with a BIG EFFECT on how YOU respond.

The choices are there, free for the taking…

Choice #1: You can thank the universe for your infinite passabilities to respond spontaneously. After all, the universe is as spontane as you are.

Choice #2: You can complain to the universe about the need to ponder over how to respond.

If everybody decided to pick option number one, maybe the world would go around a great deal faster than it does.

PASS-abilities???

What’s wrong with POSS-ibilities?

THE DUCHESS
“If everybody minded their own business,
the world would go around a great deal
faster than it does.“
DOOR
“Why, it’s simply impassible!”
ALICE
“Why? Don’t you mean impossible?”
DOOR
“No, I do mean impassible.
Nothing’s impossible!”
– Lewis Carroll

No-one knows ibility to poss.
Every child has the ability to pass through a door or exam.

Nothing’s impossible!

Decisions…decisions…

Nothing’s impossible!

1 (one) SMALL thing with a BIG EFFECT on how YOU respond.

 

The choices are there, free for the taking…

Choice #1: You can thank the universe for your infinite passabilities to respond spontaneously. After all, the universe is as spontane as you are.

Choice #2: You can complain to the universe about the need to ponder over how to respond.

If everybody decided to pick option number one, maybe the world would go around a great deal faster than it does.

PASS-abilities???

What’s wrong with POSS-ibilities?

THE DUCHESS
“If everybody minded their own business,
the world would go around a great deal
faster than it does.“
DOOR
“Why, it’s simply impassible!”
ALICE
“Why? Don’t you mean impossible?”
DOOR
“No, I do mean impassible.
Nothing’s impossible!”
– Lewis Carroll

No-one knows ibility to poss.
Every child has the ability to pass through a door or exam.

Nothing’s impossible!

Decisions…decisions…

The road to happiness

To imagine the road to happiness is a road isn’t imagination.

 

It’s a mistake. Because the choice to be unhappy or happy is permanent, available not only to you but to everyone.

You don’t make choices.

You make decisions.

Happy is no exception that no other word or word-user can decide for you.

Once you decide, it instantly makes you happy no matter what with what you are and aren’t, with what you do and don’t do, and with what you have and don’t have.

Happy is a word.

Decide your words well for they become your destiny.

Side note:
Not certain about the difference between choice and decision? Choices are infinite while decisions are finite. Your choices outnumber your decisions an infinite number to one.

Decisions

By In Blog, You

This post is about decisions.
How do we get to make them?
Have we already made decisions since before we learned the words to describe them with?
If so, what had to happen before we made our first?

ENERGY

Energy doesn’t do arguments.
Instead, energy invents and creates.
More choices than any word-user can handle.
Since the beginning of words that energy invented, our ancestors invented the word-accelerators.

INTELLIGENCE

We measure our own IQ.
Why don’t we measure energy’s IQ instead?
Schools teach it’s the sane thing to do.
Why do schools not teach the insane thing is being done instead?

CHOICES

Energy has created more choices than the word-users can handle.
For us to make more choices means making more words.
It’s the only way.
But look at what words have done to us and the wordless.
What the wordless want, they’re not saying for self-evident reasons, they don’t have words to say it with.
The word-users want more of the same.
Are you one of them?

DECISIONS

From more choices than we can handle, we make decisions.
It’s our decisions, not our choices, that determine our destiny.
Choices have got nothing to do with it.

RESPOND

Every decision you made, make, and will make, is about how you respond.
A decision for itself has no raison d’être.

WHAT YOU WANT

When you know what you want, the decision on how to respond is already made.

THIS POST

This post visits each of the above briefly.
One by one.
Happy reading.
Tallyho!

DECISIONS

All kinds of things are being said about decisions.

Depending on what is saying them.

What you believe is a question of character and personal preference.

To each their own.

Decisions, part 2

Just as our children begin before they are born, so our decisions begin before they are made.

Before DECISION even appears on the scene, the stars on the stage are ENERGY, INTELLIGENCE, and CHOICE.

ENERGY

Energy cannot be destroyed.

Meanwhile, it creates and invents.

Non-stop.

As far as we can tell, it creates and invents since the beginning of itself.

Like it or not, it is outside of the word-users’ control.

Energy doesn’t need the word-users, but we need it, not because we’re free, but because energy was there first.

Energy, part 2

On planet Earth, energy has been around for 99.9997% of the time that Earth has been around (Earth-Time).

In fact, energy invented Earth.

Words and we — the word users — have been around for the most recent 0.0003% of the time on Earth only.

Makes you wonder how energy has managed…

  • without words
  • without us
  • without a day at school

…for 99.9997% of Earth-time.

Or doesn’t it?

It has us wondering at the same time, of course, how in nothing but 0.0003% of the time on Earth, the words and word-users have mismanaged Earth into its current state.

Doesn’t it?

Energy, part 3

  • In the solar system, the sun is energy in the form of 90% hydrogen.
  • The mass of the sun is estimated at 1.989 x 10^30 kg, meaning 99.8% of the solar system is energy.
  • The word-users often mistake the sun and solar system for the universe, energy, or gods.

I have no idea why that is.

But I suspect it’s enough energy and water the future generations of word-users will ever need — provided the energy doesn’t disappear first.

Be it as it may, the energy has us wishing for the serenity to accept what we cannot change, the courage to change what we can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Energy, part 4

Energy invented the planet, the cells, the plants, the animals, the eyes, the brains, the words, and the word-users — that is you and me.

Without a day at school, how did energy know?

Naturally, we ask whether energy is good, better, best, thorough, creative, perfect, bad, a mistake, or an accident.

Energy only knows.

Either way, our ancestors used the energy in turn, to invent the word accelerators…

…as well as more fictional figures than anyone can handle.

The fictional figures invented by us include the Mad Hatter, gods, Santa Claus, James Bond, Little Red Riding Hood, Superwoman, Frankenstein, and countless others.

At the end of the word-accelerators, formerly known as the world wide web, the internet now gobbles up and spits out more words faster than anything invented for that purpose before.

What next is every word-user’s guess.

To each their own.

Energy, part 5

Energy doesn’t do arguments.

Arguments take word-users that learn words from their at the schools the parents, preachers, and teachers built.

We’re the only animal that builds schools…

  • …to learn words
  • …to ensure we understand the stories told by parents, preachers, and teachers.

INTELLIGENCE

Energy invented us, rather than the other way ‘round.

Yet we measure our IQ instead of the energy’s.

How many examples do you know of a less intelligent thing measuring the intelligence of a more intelligent thing?

CHOICES

Some word-users far less intelligent than energy accuse energy of having done a shoddy job creating evolution.

If that were true, all clouds would be identical, all nuts hazel, all birds swans, all flowers roses, all words the first, and all word-users would know the story of words.

But every word-user with eyes to see can see that the opposite is true.

Energy has invented more choices than word-users can handle.

Between 1.2 million and 155 billion English words, among which:

  • 10 numbers
  • 12 music note systems
  • 45 ibilities
  • 118 elements
  • 254 abilities
  • 300 feelings
  • 391,000 plants
  • 2,130,000 animals
  • Plenty of great ideas to learn from and copy
  • Millions of well-executed projects with their steps on display
  • Billions of words not mentioned above
  • Infinite numbers of dreams

 

  • Depending on what you ask and trust
  • With more added as we speak
  • Not counting the non-English words

A highway of diamonds with hardly anyone on it.

Choices, part 2

Some famous word-users are working hard to make you believe that you make choices.

Unless you invent more words, that’s impassable, and if the most recent 0.0003% of Earth-Time are anything to go by, inventing more words is inventing more of the same.

When in the beginning was the word, the number of words was 1 (one).

13,750 years later, the number of words is between 1.2 million and 155 billion.

Depending on what you ask.

See the state the world is in?

See where millions of words have gotten us?

DECISIONS

You make decisions.

100% of the time.

When you don’t decide, you have already made a decision.

That’s because no decision is also a decision.

Some say that’s impossible.

They’re saying the same thing.

Decisions, part 2

There is a war…

…between the genders
…between the rich and the poor
…between the liars and the honest
…between the left and right
…between the black and white
…between the odd and the even
…between the ones that say there is a war and the ones that say there isn’t
…to name a few

What wants more of the same?

Gimme a break.

Decisions, part 3

Every decision ever made was about how we respond to what’s going on within and without.

RESPOND

Everything we know is a word, so everything we respond to are words.

Makes you wonder what the wordless respond to, doesn’t it?

Your journey, your age, and your responses have in common that they are seasonal.

Your responses can look different depending on the season you’re in.

Pay attention to that and you’ll make better responses.

TAKEAWAY

Not paying attention to your decisions is like not paying attention to your stars in the full sun.

They’re there just the same.

Lies

Before the day is over, someone will want you to believe a lie, such as the lie that decision-making is complicated, complex, multifaceted, and hard.

But that’s nothing but that liar’s words.

It doesn’t apply to you.

Believe Bruce Lee instead.

At least he knows what he’s talking about.

Decisions are neither complicated, complex, multifaceted, nor hard — when you know what you want. ­

On the contrary, when you know what you want, the right decision can create certainty for you in an uncertain world for others.

The common mistake

The common mistake word-users make with decisions is deciding them over and over again.

If that’s you, your decisions are depicted on the right.

If so, your decisions are destined to wear you out in the long run.

Right wrong

If you spend more time on making the wrong decisions right than on making the right decisions, you’re deciding it wrong.

Outstanding long-term results are produced primarily by avoiding wrong decisions in the first place, rather than by making the right ones.

Pay attention to that and you’ll make better decisions.

Besides, dwelling on the wrong will only wear you out in the long run.

The solution?

Make fewer decisions!

Big small

Decisions come in BIG and SMALL.

And in WHAT and HOW.

Decide the BIG and WHAT first.

Then all it takes is the courage it takes to follow through and to forget about the rest until it’s time for the SMALL and HOW.

I’m not saying that’s the solution.

All I’m saying is give BIG and WHAT a chance.

When I decided to write THE ORIGIN OF HUMANITY, I had no clue it would take six years to complete.

But it was a BIG decision about WHAT.

I’m glad I did and never looked back for you can’t win with a losing hand.

Good bad

All decisions feel good at the time.

Because it’s difficult to predict the future.

We only realize what is wrong with hindsight.

Then we wonder what caused it.

  • Poor information?
  • Shoddy analysis?
  • Peer pressure?
  • Manipulation?
  • Hustle?
  • Power imbalance?
  • Focus on the short run?
  • Indoctrination?
  • Superstition?
  • Unexamined biases?

Don’t ask “Is this a good decision?”

Ask “When?”

Crisis

Is a crisis brewing?

That’s good!

If you hadn’t survived every crisis to date, with a 100% success rate to boot, you wouldn’t be here.

With your back against the wall, you don’t decide based on what you know. With no way out, you decide based on what you re-member only.

The good thing about crises is that they are devastating only if you believe that they will last forever.

Yet you know they never do.

The proof’s in the pudding: You’re here still.

Why wait for a crisis?

You can focus on a small sphere and achieve a 100% success rate anytime.

If that’s what you want.

Seek advice

When faced with a difficult decision, don’t be afraid to seek advice within and without you.

Be careful when a naked device offers you a shirt, even though even a smartphone may offer advice you haven’t heard of before.

Key

Re-member that decisions are all up to you.

No other word or other word-user can decide for you.

There’s no candle in the window.

When it’s about decisions, you must find your own way home.

Conclusion

What will you do with all the energy and time freed in your head, hands, and feet now?

Decisions

This post is about decisions.
When and how do we decide?
Have we already made decisions since before we learned the words to describe them with?
What happened before we made our first?

ENERGY

 Energy invents.
It doesn’t do arguments.
 Nor should you.

INTELLIGENCE

The word-users measure our own IQ.
Why don’t we measure energy’s IQ instead?

CHOICES

There exist more choices than anyone can handle.
Some want more of the same.
Are you one of them?

DECISIONS

We don’t make choices.
We make decisions.
It’s our decisions that determine our destiny.
Choices have got nothing to do with it.

RESPOND

Every decision is about how we respond.

WHAT YOU WANT

When you know what you want, many decisions are already made.

THIS POST

Visits each of the above one by one.
Tallyho!

DECISIONS

All kinds of things are being said about decisions.

Depending on what is saying them, and what to believe is a question of character and personal preference, to each their own.

Decisions, part 2

Just as our children begin before they are born, so your decisions begin before they are made.

Before DECISION even appears on the scene, the stars on the stage are ENERGY, INTELLIGENCE, and CHOICE.

ENERGY

Energy cannot be destroyed.

Meanwhile, it invents as shown above.

As far as we can tell, it even invented itself.

Like it or not, what energy does is outside of our control.

Energy doesn’t need us, we need it, not because we’re free, but because we’re energy, too.

Energy, part 2

Energy is wordless.

It’s been around for 99.9997% of Earth-Time (the 4.65 billion years since the birth of Earth).

Words and word users have been around for  0.0003% of Earth-Time (the most recent 13,750 years).

Makes you wonder how energy has…

  • without words
  • without a day at school

…managed the first 99.9997% of Earth-time without us?

And how have we…

  • with words
  • with schools

…mismanaged in just 0.0003% of Earth-Time the Earth into its current state?

Makes you wonder what words and schools are for, doesn’t it?

Energy, part 3

  • In the solar system, the sun is energy in the form of 90% hydrogen.
  • The mass of the sun is estimated at 1.989 x 10^30 kg, meaning 99.8% of the solar system is energy.
  • The word-users sometimes mistake energy for gods.

I have no clue why that is, but suspect it’s enough energy for the future word-users — provided the sun doesn’t disappear first.

Energy, part 4

While energy invented the planet and everything on it for reasons only energy knows,  our ancestors used their energy in turn to invent everything After Words.

At the end of the word-users-made inventions, the internet, formerly the world wide web, gobbles up and spits out more words faster than anything invented for that purpose before.

Of course, the word-accelerators are not the only thing that the word-users invented. On the contrary, we’ve also invented more words and fictional figures than anyone can handle. Of course, fictional words include life, and fictional figures Mad Hatter, Gods, Devils, Santa Claus, James Bond, Little Red Riding Hood, Superwoman, Frankenstein, and many more, to name a few.

What next is anybody’s guess, as in the past, to each their own.

Energy, part 5

Energy doesn’t do arguments because it doesn’t have words.

Arguments take words and word-users, the only animal that builds schools to learn words for its children born like every other animal, wordless.

INTELLIGENCE

Energy invented us, rather than the other way ‘round, ytheet we measure our IQ instead of the energy’s.

How many examples do you know of a less intelligent thing measuring the intelligence of a more intelligent thing?

CHOICES

Some word-users claim that energy has done a shoddy job in creating evolution.

I don’t think so, because if that were true, all clouds would be identical, all nuts hazel, all birds swans, all flowers roses, all words the first, and all word-users would know the story of words.

But every word-user with eyes to see can see that the opposite is true.

Energy has invented more choices than word-users can handle.

Between 1.2 million and 155 billion English words, among which:

  • 10 numbers
  • 12 music note systems
  • 45 ibilities
  • 118 elements
  • 254 abilities
  • 300 feelings
  • 391,000 plants
  • 2,130,000 animals
  • Plenty of great ideas to learn from and copy
  • Millions of well-executed projects with their steps on display
  • Billions of words not mentioned above
  • Infinite numbers of dreams

 

  • Depending on what you ask and trust
  • With more added as we speak
  • Not counting the non-English words

A highway of diamonds with hardly anyone on it.

Choices, part 2

Some word-users are working hard to make you believe that you make choices.

You don’t. You make decisions.

At the time of the first word, its number was 1 (one).
13,750 years later, depending on what you ask, their number has exploded to between 1.2 million and 155 billion words.

 

See where the words have gotten us?
See the state the world is in?

DECISIONS

You make decisions.

100% of the time.

When you don’t decide, you have already made a decision.

That’s because no decision is a decision, too.

Some say that’s impossible.

They’re saying the same thing.

Decisions, part 2

There is a war…

…between the genders
…between the rich and the poor
…between the liars and the honest
…between the left and right
…between the black and white
…between the odd and the even
…between the ones that say there is a war and the ones that say there isn’t
…to name a few

What wants more of the same?

Gimme a break.

Decisions, part 3

Every decision is about how we respond to what’s going on within us and without us.

RESPOND

Everything we know is a word, so everything we respond to are words.

JOURNEY AGE RESPONSES

You’re on a journey from birth to death. We’re all in this together.

Our journeys, ages, and responses have one thing in common.

They are seasonal.

Your responses are sometimes different depending on the season you’re in.

Pay attention to that and you’ll make better responses.

TAKEAWAY

Not paying attention to your decisions is rather like not paying attention to the stars in the full sun.

They’re there just the same.

PS. Lies

Before the day is over, someone will want you to believe that decision-making is difficult, complicated, complex, multifaceted, or hard.

But these are just words out of a liar’s mouth.

At least he knows what he’s talking about.

When you know what you want, decisions are easy and can create certainty for you in an uncertain world for others.

The common mistake

The common mistake word-users make with decisions is deciding them over and over again.

If that’s you, your decisions are depicted on the right.

If so, your decisions are destined to wear you out in the long run.

Right wrong

If you spend more time on making the wrong decisions right than on making the right decisions, you’re deciding it wrong.

Outstanding long-term results are produced primarily by avoiding wrong decisions in the first place, rather than by making the right ones.

Pay attention to that and you’ll make better decisions.

Besides, dwelling on the wrong will only wear you out in the long run.

The solution?

Make fewer decisions!

Big small

Decisions come in BIG and SMALL.

And in WHAT and HOW.

Decide the BIG and WHAT first.

Then all it takes is the courage it takes to follow through and to forget about the rest until it’s time for the SMALL and HOW.

I’m not saying that’s the solution.

All I’m saying is give BIG and WHAT a chance.

When I decided to write THE ORIGIN OF HUMANITY, I had no clue it would take six years to complete.

But it was a BIG decision about WHAT.

I’m glad I did and never looked back for you can’t win with a losing hand.

Good bad

All decisions feel good at the time.

Because it’s difficult to predict the future.

We only realize what is wrong with hindsight.

Then we wonder what caused it.

  • Poor information?
  • Shoddy analysis?
  • Peer pressure?
  • Manipulation?
  • Hustle?
  • Power imbalance?
  • Focus on the short run?
  • Indoctrination?
  • Superstition?
  • Unexamined biases?

Don’t ask “Is this a good decision?”

Ask “When?”

Crisis

Is a crisis brewing?

That’s good!

If you hadn’t survived every crisis to date, with a 100% success rate to boot, you wouldn’t be here.

With your back against the wall, you don’t decide based on what you know. With no way out, you decide based on what you re-member only.

The good thing about crises is that they are devastating only if you believe that they will last forever.

Yet you know they never do.

The proof’s in the pudding: You’re here still.

Why wait for a crisis?

You can focus on a small sphere and achieve a 100% success rate anytime.

If that’s what you want.

Seek advice

When faced with a difficult decision, don’t be afraid to seek advice within and without you.

Be careful when a naked device offers you a shirt, even though even a smartphone may offer advice you haven’t heard of before.

Key

Re-member that decisions are all up to you.

No other word or other word-user can decide for you.

There’s no candle in the window.

When it’s about decisions, you must find your own way home.

SUMMARY

What will you do with the energy and time now freed in your head, hands, and feet?

 

Decision-making: A guide for those who can’t decide whether they want to read this article or not

By In Blog, Words, You

While there is no one-size-fits-all approach to decision-making, if you ask the internet, ChatGPT, or other forms of AI, they will want you to believe that decision-making is a complicated, complex, multifaceted process.

I’m not saying decisions are easy. All I’m saying is it doesn’t have to be this hard.

Good and bad

Between a bad and a good decision is no difference. They both feel equally right at the right time.

With hindsight we convince ourselves, and others, that every bad decision was caused by something bad in turn. But when we pay attention to the road ahead, we accept that we will never know what’s up around the bend or behind a new horizon.

Therefore, relax. Had you ever made a bad decision on your journey between birth and death before, you wouldn’t be here.

Take a deep breath and let’s dive right in.

The good news

The good news is that we can get better at our decisions. All it takes is more bad decisions. If you make enough bad decisions, it is inevitable that some good decisions will slip through which isn’t known to ever have failed yet.

Learn from mistakes

Wrong decisions are an inevitable part of the get-it-right process. Remember you learned to walk by falling.

Dwelling on the falls will only wear you out in the long run.

Big vs small

All decisions are not the same. On the contrary, the vital few are a few and far between, and the majority of decisions are small and unimportant.

If that reminds you of the Pareto principle which states that the vital few outcomes will always come from a few causes, great! If not, “Give me a fruitful error any time, full of seeds, bursting with its own corrections, and you can keep your sterile truths for yourself” (Vilfredo Pareto).

What

Your vital few outcomes will always come from a vital few decisions.

These are your BIG decisions from atop the pyramid.

BIG decisions are about the WHAT and about the long term (as opposed to the cursed HOW and the short term).

Unless you want to start with the HOW decisions at the bottom of the pyramid, let’s begin with your WHAT decisions first.

Know what you want

For that it helps knowing that you’ve responded to your most pressing wants since before you were born. And you respond as we speak — whether you know it, are aware of it, or like it, or not.

In other words, to get your BIG decisions made, all you must do is figure out your most pressing wants for the later part of your journey. Not because it will be later, but because the only way to influence your later is by your decisions now.

When you know WHAT you want, many HOW down the road are already decided before they show up.

What YOU want

What YOU want is the BIGgest decision atop the pyramid.

Everything you want to imagine is on a permanent buffet free for the taking far beyond anything you can imagine.

It’s permanent because it’s got nothing to do with whether you and me exist or not.

What’s temporary is your existence, hence your decisions. You only exist once and there’s no freedom in whether you decide or not. Every time you don’t decide, you’ve already made a decision anyway. You can ask why of course, because that’s the beauty of no freedom.

This explains, among other things, why you’ve decided your most pressing wants since before you were born, and why you’ve been doing it ever since, 100% of the time.

At the risk of repetition, you are not free to not decide, and that’s whether you love it, know it, or are aware of it, or not. There’s nothing you can do about it, or you wouldn’t be here.

What YOU want: Part 2

You may want to…

  • Own it all (where would you put it?)
  • Know it all (knowing there’s always more to know)
  • Have everything money can buy
  • Be somebody else (they’ve got to walk in their own shoes)
  • Be certain in an uncertain world
  • Be free
  • Make the world a better place
  • Make you a better you
  • ________________________ (fill the blank)

Nobody said it would be easy. But it doesn’t have to be this hard.

All you’ve got to do is decide once and for all.

The common mistake

The common mistake word-users make with decisions is deciding them over and over again. If that’s you, then your decision-making process looks like the one on the right.

I don’t know you. I don’t know how long it will last. But the graph on the right will wear you out in the long run.

Freedom

There is a space between the demand for a decision and your response. In this space you are free to decide your decision. That is where your freedom is.

Feel

To take advantage of your freedom, trust your feelings.

Your feelings decide what you go after and what you avoid. That’s because when we must decide between feelings and logic, feelings almost always win.

Heart

To be free, also embrace your heart.

“Where is fancy bred… in the heart or in the head?” – Shakespeare

What about in crisis mode?

Is a fresh crisis brewing? Good!

You have survived every crisis to-date, with a 100% success rate to boot, or you wouldn’t be reading this.

In crisis mode – with your back against the wall – you don’t decide based on what you know. In a crisis, you decide based on what you re-member only.

The best thing about crises is they are devastating only if you believe they will last forever and you know from personal experience they never do.

Why wait for a next crisis? You can focus on a small sphere and achieve a 100% success rate anytime. If that’s what you want.

Seek advice

When faced with a difficult decision, don’t be afraid to seek advice from friends within and without your family, but be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt. That said, even the internet can offer fresh perspectives you may have overlooked.

Most important

When it’s decision time, it’s all up to you. No other word and no other person can decide for you.

At decision time there’s no candle in the window. You’ve got to find your own way home.

Takeaway

Congratulations! You’ve made it to the end of this decision-making guide for those who couldn’t decide, a couple of minutes ago whether they wanted to read this article or not.

With words I can help, after all that’s what im here for, but the decision of what you do with them is all up to you.

Whether you’ve gained any useful insights or are now even more confused than before, remember that no other word nor other person can make decisions for you.

There’s no one-size-fits-all approach. The most important is to have fun along the way.

There’s more

To get even better a decision-making, consider taking part in my seminar that will also be offered as an online webinar in the not too-distant future.

Decision-making: A guide for those who can’t decide whether they want to read this article or not

While there is no one-size-fits-all approach to decision-making, if you ask the internet, ChatGPT, or other forms of AI, they will want you to believe that decision-making is a complicated, complex, multifaceted process.

I’m not saying decisions are easy. All I’m saying is it doesn’t have to be this hard.

Good and bad

Between a bad and a good decision is no difference. They both feel equally right at the right time.

With hindsight we convince ourselves, and others, that every bad decision was caused by something bad in turn. But when we pay attention to the road ahead, we accept that we will never know what’s up around the bend or behind a new horizon.

Therefore, relax. Had you ever made a bad decision on your journey between birth and death before, you wouldn’t be here.

Take a deep breath and let’s dive right in.

The good news

The good news is that we can get better at our decisions. All it takes is more bad decisions. If you make enough bad decisions, it is inevitable that some good decisions will slip through which isn’t known to ever have failed yet.

Learn from mistakes

Wrong decisions are an inevitable part of the get-it-right process. Remember you learned to walk by falling.

Dwelling on the falls will only wear you out in the long run.

Big vs small

All decisions are not the same. On the contrary, the vital few are a few and far between, and the majority of decisions are small and unimportant.

If that reminds you of the Pareto principle which states that the vital few outcomes will always come from a few causes, great! If not, “Give me a fruitful error any time, full of seeds, bursting with its own corrections, and you can keep your sterile truths for yourself” (Vilfredo Pareto).

What

Your vital few outcomes will always come from a vital few decisions.

These are your BIG decisions from atop the pyramid.

BIG decisions are about the WHAT and about the long term (as opposed to the cursed HOW and the short term).

Unless you want to start with the HOW decisions at the bottom of the pyramid, let’s begin with your WHAT decisions first.

Know what you want

For that it helps knowing that you’ve responded to your most pressing wants since before you were born. And you respond as we speak — whether you know it, are aware of it, or like it, or not.

In other words, to get your BIG decisions made, all you must do is figure out your most pressing wants for the later part of your journey. Not because it will be later, but because the only way to influence your later is by your decisions now.

When you know WHAT you want, many HOW down the road are already decided before they show up.

What YOU want

What YOU want is the BIGgest decision atop the pyramid.

Everything you want to imagine is on a permanent buffet free for the taking far beyond anything you can imagine.

It’s permanent because it’s got nothing to do with whether you and me exist or not.

What’s temporary is your existence, hence your decisions. You only exist once and there’s no freedom in whether you decide or not. Every time you don’t decide, you’ve already made a decision anyway. You can ask why of course, because that’s the beauty of no freedom.

This explains, among other things, why you’ve decided your most pressing wants since before you were born, and why you’ve been doing it ever since, 100% of the time.

At the risk of repetition, you are not free to not decide, and that’s whether you love it, know it, or are aware of it, or not. There’s nothing you can do about it, or you wouldn’t be here.

What YOU want: Part 2

You may want to…

  • Own it all (where would you put it?)
  • Know it all (knowing there’s always more to know)
  • Have everything money can buy
  • Be somebody else (they’ve got to walk in their own shoes)
  • Be certain in an uncertain world
  • Be free
  • Make the world a better place
  • Make you a better you
  • ________________________ (fill the blank)

Nobody said it would be easy. But it doesn’t have to be this hard.

All you’ve got to do is decide once and for all.

The common mistake

The common mistake word-users make with decisions is deciding them over and over again. If that’s you, then your decision-making process looks like the one on the right.

I don’t know you. I don’t know how long it will last. But the graph on the right will wear you out in the long run.

Freedom

There is a space between the demand for a decision and your response. In this space you are free to decide your decision. That is where your freedom is.

Feel

To take advantage of your freedom, trust your feelings.

Your feelings decide what you go after and what you avoid. That’s because when we must decide between feelings and logic, feelings almost always win.

Heart

To be free, also embrace your heart.

“Where is fancy bred… in the heart or in the head?” – Shakespeare

What about in crisis mode?

Is a fresh crisis brewing? Good!

You have survived every crisis to-date, with a 100% success rate to boot, or you wouldn’t be reading this.

In crisis mode – with your back against the wall – you don’t decide based on what you know. In a crisis, you decide based on what you re-member only.

The best thing about crises is they are devastating only if you believe they will last forever and you know from personal experience they never do.

Why wait for a next crisis? You can focus on a small sphere and achieve a 100% success rate anytime. If that’s what you want.

Seek advice

When faced with a difficult decision, don’t be afraid to seek advice from friends within and without your family, but be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt. That said, even the internet can offer fresh perspectives you may have overlooked.

Most important

When it’s decision time, it’s all up to you. No other word and no other person can decide for you.

At decision time there’s no candle in the window. You’ve got to find your own way home.

Takeaway

Congratulations! You’ve made it to the end of this decision-making guide for those who couldn’t decide, a couple of minutes ago whether they wanted to read this article or not.

With words I can help, after all that’s what im here for, but the decision of what you do with them is all up to you.

Whether you’ve gained any useful insights or are now even more confused than before, remember that no other word nor other person can make decisions for you.

There’s no one-size-fits-all approach. The most important is to have fun along the way.

There’s more

To get even better a decision-making, consider taking part in my seminar that will also be offered as an online webinar in the not too-distant future.